I talk about this a lot but I’m once again thinking about the energy of havingness, or ownership: the contrast between trying vs. simply doing. How do some people get out in front of their lives, instead of hanging around and hoping an opening will present itself?
From the Tales Of The Havingness vault:
Exhibit A: Dave was in college for something like electrical engineering, and decided at one point that he ought to have a job. He ended up working on the maintenance crew for a company that, for whatever reason, made use of the biggest and most powerful computers of their time.
Meanwhile, back at the college, Dave soon found himself taking an elective course in computer coding, and it turned out he had an aptitude for it. One day at work it occurred to him, “hey, I’ll get a job coding for these guys!” It was his personal style that I noticed; it came to him as if it was just a matter of making the announcement. I found that straight up fascinating.
Our protagonist had a plan; he would haul out the suit he wore at his wedding then walk into Human Resources and let them know which division he wanted to work for and why he was perfect for the job. It was a tell, not an ask. We didn’t even laugh; it was Dave, for Pete’s sake, and it’s exactly what he did. Much later I thought, that was a master class in Havingness! Not only did he get the job, but he switched his major, became a software engineer with the same company for several years, then went on to have a great time working in start-ups up, all the way into retirement. He had many jobs throughout his career; if he got bored or didn’t like a job anymore he’d just go get another one, like there was an endless supply.
Which of course there was. Havingness is the open space in our energy where we have room to receive something we want, whether it’s a great job, a nice car, the vacation of our dreams or something less tangible like better understanding, more patience or a closer connection to Source. It’s our ability to fully experience the thing that we want and it can be an object or a concept or an emotion – literally, anything!
As we will see in a minute, we can want something all day, but when the years peel away and we never realize that desire, it’s really our havingness we should consider.
Now, onto Exhibit B:
Rachel was a middle child from a family in a tiny mountain town in Colorado. She went to college for film studies somewhere in California, then returned to her hometown to figure out her next step. Fascinated by MTV in its early days, she decided one day that she wanted to be a MTV host, or a VJ.
She mailed them an audition tape; MTV turned her down. Undeterred, she moved to New York and appeared one day at their door. Her stint as a VJ for MTV lasted 2 years. It had its ups and its downs, but she had the havingness and the creativity to satisfy her urge. In later years Rachel went on to manage an award-winning television station and then a public radio station. There was never any fanfare to speak of, just intent.
Both examples are about jobs, but the concept applies to any area of life. Students learn about creating their world in our beginners class, How to Heal Yourself, where we teach them how to co-create with Spirit. They also learn it’s not enough just to want something; it’s havingness that opens the door.
I’m reminded of a long-ago co-worker, who bought lottery tickets all the time. He bought them and bought them and bought them some more, but the most he ever seemed to win was the very occasional $50. Now and then he’d win a random object like a wooden cheese board (yes children, this is a thing. You slice up the dairy products and display them on an attractive wooden board). Was he expanding his concept of what abundance should look like?
He might have spent double or triple or exponentially the amount that he realized in the end, but he was always optimistic that a life-changing shift in his fortunes was close at hand.
The characters in my earlier examples had havingness, but my employer didn’t. The door to his dreams was firmly shut. I looked at him energetically and I saw him on the wrong side of a door that had lack on one side and abundance on the other. The irony was that there were no walls; my boss could have walked around the door frame and into abundance any time he wanted! Was there something wrong with him? Absolutely not, we all do this at one time or another.
If you’re familiar with the tools you can play with havingness, it’s easy. Think of something you’d like to have or do or be that’s been elusive to you so far, then look at a gauge that has numbers on it from 1-100. What percent can you “have” that thing? If it’s not at least 75%, you have some energy to move. Ground the gauge, then push the needle up to 100%. The act of moving the needle helps release the energy that’s in your way, whether it’s self-doubt, other people’s beliefs and opinions about your goal, or maybe the concept that it’s going to be hard to accomplish. You don’t have to know what’s in your way, just let it go.
If you’re curious about how this havingness thing works, we have a great beginner’s class, How To Heal Yourself, in which we teach all the basics you need to shift your energy and change your life. As always, you can find all our offerings on our website at www.psychichorizonscenter.org. If you have any questions about what we do at the center, please give us a call at 303-440-7171.
Rt. Rev. Katie Heldman is the Co-Director of Psychic Horizons Center, and wrote this article for the June 19th, 2023 eNews.