How do we end up in the lives we are living? In both our Clairvoyant and graduate programs, we guide students to look at the many decisions we make in spirit, just before we are born. We make those choices in the space between lifetimes that we call the threshold, and I always imagine it like a room with a big cosmic conference table, where we sit with members of our soul family and figure out what we’re going to work on in the coming lifetime.
Examining the threshold space, we’ve learned that we pick our physical bodies. We might select a certain body type because we’ve experienced it before, and there was something we enjoyed about it. Or maybe it was hard to work with, but we learned a lot by living in it and we want to learn some more. Or we might choose a completely different body, because we’re ready to learn something new about the physical.
In the threshold, we choose our parents, siblings and the other players in our lives, both major and minor. Sometimes, we pick the same people to be our parents in more than one lifetime. Generally speaking, we also pre-plan our vocation, community and environment, and these factors help create the foundation for that lifetime. On the other hand we have free will, so we can change direction after we incarnate. When she was in her 40’s, a psychic told one of my students that she had planned to depart this body around the age of 34, but decided against it when she reached her 30’s. He went on to tell her that now, she could expect to live well into old age! The whole thing was very startling to her, but we looked at the energy and I saw what the other psychic saw. I told her, “Go do something fun! You’re going to be around for a while!”
Students that struggle with relationship dysfunction and other challenges don’t love to hear that they planned it ahead of time, and often they are less than enchanted to discover that they picked their families. But the truth is, we learn the most when we are challenged. Imagine you have fantastic parents that see you and guide you, you’re surrounded by abundance, your siblings are terrific in every way, and you have a job that you’re passionate about, that pays great. To sweeten the deal, your partner is dreamy and fully supportive, everyone’s healthy and you completely love yourself. How much is there to learn?
As spirits, we often seek some tension in our lives in order to grow. It is true that a spirit might choose to experience an easy incarnation like the one I’ve described, what we’ll call a resting lifetime. But I can only think of one person I know that fits this description and, when I think about my family and friends, I sense that, generally, we don’t choose resting lifetimes very often. There’s some comfort in knowing that maybe we naturally gravitate toward challenge, in order to evolve as spirits.
It reminds me of a friend that was taking a psychiatric drug for anxiety. After a couple of years, she told me she needed to stop taking it because everything about her life was perfectly, troublingly great! As she described it to me with a big grin, “I’m just so damn carefree!” The prescription had done exactly what she needed it to do, and beautifully. Then she recognized she was ready for experiences she could work on, and felt the drug was getting in her way.
The people and pets we engage with, help us complete agreements we made in the threshold. We create these agreements together with our future families, friends, teachers, fellow students, neighbors, pets and on and on. But even the briefest interaction can be deeply meaningful, important, and the result of an agreement. I remember working on a stage somewhere in Florida in 1991, with a young man who was about my age. We were laying down a dance floor for that night’s performance of a touring musical, a job that afforded me hours to get to know people. Somehow the topic turned to spiritual matters, and I don’t remember much about the conversation except that at some point the man looked me in the eye and said something like, “Katie, you don’t need to be a Buddhist.” Then he went back to laying out the floor.
We worked together for just one day, I don’t remember his name, and I never saw him again. I’ve never forgotten those few words but it was years before I realized that man was a messenger from Spirit, reminding me that, in this lifetime, I would learn how to find my own answers. I’ve always felt he agreed to show up at a pivotal moment, to remind me of my own power.
The best part of the story is, we make these agreements in the threshold, at the vibration of pure love. We work together in spirit with our soul family to collaborate, heal each other, and keep each other company while we learn in the body. This goes for our greatest loves and our worst enemies alike.
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