Giving to the self happens every week in our classes and workshops. It’s not a topic we teach, rather it’s the result of using our clairvoyant tools. A student once said to me, “what does that mean, giving to the self?” To her it was four words strung together with the emphasis on “giving”. As healers, we’re accustomed to giving, tending, healing, fixing; we’re good at it! But it’s usually in the context of the Other, whether it’s our child, our partner, our parents, our friends. Who needs something and how can I provide it? That question can inadvertently become the road map for many healers and empaths.
Giving to the self can be harder. The student said to me, what am I supposed to do, go get a pedicure? She laughed but it could be that simple; doing something to bring our energy back to the Self. For another student though, a pedicure might be something she does routinely because she feels like it’s something women are supposed to do. “Supposed to” is almost always about somebody else, so it’s not likely to shift her energy.
Giving to the self is a different kind of giving than what we might think.
Because many of us are other-focused, giving to the self can feel very foreign. I didn’t understand what it meant until I got to the end of the clairvoyant program and realized how much more present I felt! During the Clairvoyant program students can spend as many as 6 hours a week – even more – participating in classes and undergraduate readings. At that rate, it’s over 300 hours a year! Hours not devoted to routine obligations or responsibilities of daily life, whether real or imagined. Hours spent in the company of like-minded people who understand the language of Spirit. Hours in which students get to move energy out of their space that isn’t theirs.
Everything we teach is designed to help students reclaim their authenticity. They don’t always know what that means. They might come to the center because their lives are uncomfortable in some way; they end up in a job or a relationship that doesn’t make sense, they feel everyone else’s feelings, they get sick when a loved one is sick or they think they have to fix other people’s problems. Often, they know that the “usual” way people live doesn’t work for them and that there must be something more. Sometimes they think Psychic Horizons Center is in the business of teaching people how to be healers. But truly, we’re in the business of helping you make space to heal yourself. In a healed state, you are authentic. When you’re authentic and if it’s your path, you might work as a healer for others.
It’s said that when a person heals herself, it gives others permission to heal. But not just one person, it can be 10,000! That gives us permission to focus on ourselves instead of needing to fix the world—because we’re giving the world permission to fix itself!
Go ahead and get the pedicure, take the vacation, have a great meal; you deserve it! But give to yourself by using your clairvoyant tools. Grounding, running energy, repairing your aura, blowing roses; you don’t even have to know what energies you’re moving to get a healing. Every time you do, you’re giving others permission to go within, to use tools, to give to the self. It’s a win-win!
Rt. Rev. Katie Heldman is the Co-Director of Psychic Horizons Center, and wrote this article for the June 27th, 2022 eNews.