Many people have a hard time validating themselves and their life choices. We weren’t always taught how to do that. We are taught to look outside of ourselves for validation and to please others. For many, underneath anger and depression lives fear —  a fear of  being alive and not belonging, of being alone and not being able to survive. Lack of self-worth is the source of many people’s pain, and it’s a topic we generally don’t want to look at!

How do we start to learn how to validate ourselves and move forward? How do we claim our lives and really enjoy living each day? One place to begin is inside ourselves. Pause and take three deep breaths. Say hello to your body and tell it you love it. As a soul, you are like a boss to your body. What kind of boss are you? Do you find yourself talking critically to your body and being angry at its shortcomings or so-called failures? Do you give it adequate lunch breaks and bathroom time? Do you demand long hours and very little nutritious food for it to eat? We all know how much fun it is to work for that kind of boss!

Your body contains a wealth of information and the better and more loving your communication is with it, the more it responds back to you. The body pinpoints for you exactly where energy is stuck in the body, usually with pain. When you sit quietly and go into that pain, you discover that the body is trying to release it. As a soul, you can make space and help the body move out energy and thus release the pain.

Validate your body’s ability to communicate to you what it needs. Before you reach for Advil, ask the body what energy is producing pain in the body. Many times you can release the energy and the pain at the same time. Admire how capable the body is and validate its ability to heal itself. It is a good first step in loving and appreciating yourself. ❦

Mary Bell Nyman is the Director of Psychic Horizons Center in Boulder, CO and originally wrote this for the Apr/May 2017 Newsletter. If you repost this message, or any portion thereof, please give credit to Rev. Mary Bell Nyman, www.psychichorizonscenter.org.