Rebirth Through Love by Krista Socash

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Sometimes what is best for us sure doesn't feel that way. Telling someone news that may not make them happy, doing something that you know everyone else will criticize doesn't always feel good. It can be especially challenging when our relationships are coming to an end. We know that something has changed, shifted, or is not working, but we try to make it work over and over, in an attempt to avoid any pain or discomfort.

Recently, I read a woman who had been in a very intense relationship with a man she really loved. However, they were drifting apart. She was making very big changes in her life and he was not ready to move ahead. She was aware that it was over, but was having a hard time letting go. It can be hard to move ahead with your own life and let go of people and the relationships we had with them. We are afraid we will lose something. We can feel intense pain, loneliness, or even like we are dying.

This can be a wonderful way a spirit grows. I see it like a rebirth. This spiritual birth is a very intense process, but we come out of it a new person. It's the spirit's way of clearing out the old to make room for an entirely different level of love, both with ourself and others.

Logically we know we need to move on, but we have to allow our emotions, body and life to catch up, which can be an extremely intense transition. We are actually changing our identity. Everything we thought was absolute is now falling away.

We ask, "Will I ever love again?"

With this woman, I saw that she still had that same intense love and feeling for this man, but she had grown so much into it and from it, it was hard for her to see. The very love that once enveloped her as a being was now small in comparison to her. The love hadn't changed, she did.

We can choose to grow through pain or joy. Seeing things as a lesson and a validation rather than something we did wrong, or it didn't work. If we validate every relationship and every situation in our life for all we learn and grow from it, we move through things a lot faster and easier.

We never lose love. We never lose our growth. I was once told that the only thing you take with you to when you die is the love you experienced in your life. You don't have to die to recognize the love you have. You can ask your spirit to show you just how much love is in your life! You can receive it from anywhere - nature, friends, family, but most of all yourself. You can start out each day and ask yourself, how much love am I going to allow myself today? You may be surprised!

-Rev. Krista Socash

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