Permission To Be You by David Morelli

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ow many times have you said, "If only I could get a moment to myself, I'd..."?

Without a doubt, the world is speeding-up. The pace of life is faster than ever. Most of us become so driven to get things done that we forget why we do them. We lose sight of who we are doing them for.

I notice that myself and others are driven by a fear of disapproval and criticism. I notice that a lot of times I have something to tell someone, but I won't speak up because I'm afraid he or she will get angry at me. I'm afraid they'll say or think, "What a jerk. I can't believe he had the nerve to say that to me." We fear that we won't be able to be ok if we do something wrong. I wonder where we get that impression? Most of us picked it up from when we were young and growing up. "If you don't do as I ask, I'll send you to your room." There is the threat of being punished. "Wipe that smile off your face or I'll do it for you!"

There are varying degrees of the fear of having things taken away, so we make sure to meet with the approval of those around us. The only problem is, we end up becoming what everyone else wants us to be, rather than being ourselves. Men in particular have it more difficult in some respects. We go through a process of change when there's a shift in the flow of life-force through us. Within this process, if we don't get permission to go through that change, we end up with a lot of invalidation and/or non-permission to be who we are. So, how can you create the space and permission for you to be you? In the Power Tools for Men class, we teach men how to release everyone else's criticisms and expectations. One way to do it is to imagine all of the 'criticisms' and 'expectations' from others dropping away, releasing into the ground. In place of those standards and expectations, imagine being filled up with acceptance and love for who you are, just the way you are. Take a deep breath. We, as souls, didn't decide we wanted to have a body to be who other people wanted us to be. Instead, we wanted to come into a body to be who WE are. We wanted to bring the enormity of ourselves as spirits into physical bodies to express Divinity in physical form. To do that, start with giving yourself permission to be who you are and your life will become more and more fulfilling. Men are also invited to our Men's Healing Clinic. Drop by Mondays, between 5:30 and 6:30 here at Psychic Horizons Center.

-Rev. David Morelli

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